Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively to the biological relationship.
Parenting styles vary by historical time period, race/ethnicity, social class, and other social features. Additionally, research has supported that parental history both in terms of attachments of varying quality as well as parental psychopathology, particularly in the wake of adverse experiences, can strongly influence parental sensitivity and child outcomes.
How Should Parents Treat Their Children?
These who bring children into this world are responsible for raising them to realms beyond the heavens. Just as you take care of their bodily health, so take care of their spiritual life. For God’s sake, have pity and save the helpless innocents. Do not let their lives go to waste. – M. Fethullah Gulen
The future of every individual is closely related to the impressions and influences experienced during childhood and youth. If children and young people are brought up in a climate where their enthusiasm is stimulated with higher feelings, they will have vigorous minds and display good morals and virtues. – M. Fethullah Gulen
The first school for children, whose souls are as bright as mirrors and as quick to record as cameras, are their homes. Their first educators are their mothers. Thus it is fundamental for a nation’s existence and stability that mothers be brought up and educated to be good educators for their children. – M. Fethullah Gulen
If parents encourage their children to develop their abilities and be useful to themselves and the community, they give the nation a strong new pillar. If, on the contrary, they do not cultivate their children’s human feelings, they release scorpions into the community. – M. Fethullah Gulen
Improving a community is possible only by elevating the young generations to the rank of humanity, not by obliterating the bad ones. Unless a seed composed of religion, tradition, and historical consciousness is germinated throughout the country, new evil elements will appear and grow in the place of each eradicated bad one. – M. Fethullah Gulen
Respect of parents is a primary and sacred obligation. If you do not respect your parents, you are disobeying God Almighty. Those who treat their parents badly eventually are treated badly by others. – M. Fethullah Gulen
From the very moment of conception, a growing and developing child is a care and responsibility for its parents. One cannot estimate the depth of attachment and compassion parents feel for their children, or calculate the troubles and hardships they endure because of them. For this reason, respecting parents is a debt of human gratitude as well as a religious obligation. – M. Fethullah Gulen
Those who value their parents and regard them as a means to obtain God’s mercy are the most prosperous in both worlds. Those who regard their parents’ existence as a burden or who become weary of them inevitably suffer the most severe hardships in life. – M. Fethullah Gulen
The more you respect your parents, the greater the respect and awe you feel before your Creator. If you do not feel and show respect to your parents, this means that you feel no fear, awe, or respect toward God. Yet, it is a curious thing today that both those who disrespect God and those who claim they love God disobey their parents. – M. Fethullah Gulen
Children should respect and obey their parents as much as possible. Parents should give as much importance to their children’s moral and spiritual education as they do to their physical growth and health, and should entrust them to the care of the most honorable teachers and guides. How ignorant and careless are those parents who neglect their children’s moral and spiritual training, and how unfortunate are the children who suffer such neglect and are so victimized. – M. Fethullah Gulen
Children who are inconsiderate of their parents’ rights and disobey them are “monsters derived from a deteriorated human being.” Parents who do not secure their children’s moral and spiritual welfare also are merciless and cruel. Most brutish and pitiless of all are parents who paralyze their children’s moral and spiritual development after their children have found their way to human perfection. – M. Fethullah Gulen
Families form a society’s foundation. The reciprocal respect of rights and obligations within a family results in a healthy and strong society. When such familial relationships disappear, the society loses its compassion and respect for others. – M. Fethullah Gulen
Parenting is 50% feeling like your head might explode, and 50% feeling like your heart might.
Parenting is a life time job and does not stop when a child grows up. – Jake Slope
Parenting is about raising, loving, and celebrating the child you have, not the child you thought you would have.
Parenting is about showing up. Day after day. Night after night. On the good days and the hard days. Everyday. Loving your kids. That is what matters.
Parenting is hard, especially when trying to be patient with little versions on impatient you.
Parenting is hard. Its challenging, messy, crazy, and exhausting. And yet its still unbelievably beautiful.
Parenting is not for sissies. You have to sacrifice and grow up. – Jillian Michaels
Parenting is one of the best management training programs there is. – Irene Rosenfeld
Parenting is so much simpler when you stop explaining yourself to others and just do what works for you and your family.
Parenting is the biggest sacrifice one can make. It’s putting your life on hold to fulfill the promise of your children’s tomorrow.
Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have an opinion about, but the hardest thing in the world to do. – Matt Walsh
Parenting without a sense of humor is like being an accountant who sucks at math. – Amber Dusick
(24/7) once you sign on to be a mother, that’s the only shift they offer. – Jodi Picoult
90% of parenting is about when you can lie down again.
A 2-year-old is kind of like having a blender, but you don’t have a top for it. – Jerry Seinfeld
A child enters your home and for the next twenty years makes so much noise you can hardly stand it. The child departs, leaving the house so silent you think you are going mad. – John Andrew Holmes
A child is always on their parents mind and forever in their heart.
A child, like your stomach, doesn’t need all you can afford to give it. – Frank A. Clark
A father’s goodness is higher than the mountain, a mother’s goodness deeper than the sea. – Japanese proverb
A good father is a source of inspiration and self-restraint. A good mother is the root of kindness and humbleness. – Dr. TP Chia
A lot of parents will do anything for their kids except let them be themselves. – Banksy
A mother is a person who is seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. – Tenneva Jordan
A mother understands what a child does not say. – Jewish proverb
A mother’s love is patient and forgiving when all others are forsaking, it never fails or falters, even though the heart is breaking. – Helen Rice
A parent doesn’t try to hold their child back or take the path for them. Their job is to light the path with their love so they can always find their way home.
A parent never stops being an example for their child.
A parent understands what their child does not say.
A parent’s love is made of deep devotion, sacrifice, and pain; It is endless and unselfish, and enduring come what may.
A parent’s love is whole no matter how many times divided. – Robert Brault
Affirming words from moms and dads are like light switches. Speak a word of affirmation at the right moment in a child’s life and it’s like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities. – Gary Smalley
All of us have moments in our lives that test our courage. Taking children into a house with a white carpet is one of them. – Erma Bombeck
All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my mother. – Abraham Lincoln
Always kiss your children goodnight, even if they’re already asleep. – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Any child in his right mind will test the limits. That’s his job. He’s pretty new on the planet, after all, and he’s figuring out the rules. The most common reason that children test the limits is that they really want to find out where those limits are. Children need the security of knowing that someone more experienced and knowledgeable is looking out for them. They don’t feel safe when we don’t guide and nurture. That’s why we often say that children will keep pushing until they find our limits. – Dr. Laura Markham
As a parent, every time I think of my child, I cant help but smile.
As a parent, I am going to do everything I can to raise kids who make this world a better place.
As a parent, I am not perfect. I forget things. I lose my cool. And some days I go a little crazy. But its okay, because in the end, no one could ever love my child the way I do.
As a parent, I don’t want my children to follow in my footsteps. I want them to take the path next to me and go further than I could have ever dreamt possible.
As a parent, I pray my kids always know how loved and adored they are. There is nothing more important to me in life than them.
As a parent, loving your children for who they are, while they figure out who they want to be, is one of the most powerful gifts we could ever give them.
As a parent, the greatest gift I can give my child is my time, my love, and my attention.
As a parent, there is no greater honor than watching your child grow up.
As a parent, you just need to look at your child, and you can feel your heart exploding with unconditional love for them.
As a parent, you’re going to get advice from a lot of people, but innately you know what your child needs. You can take bits and pieces of advice, but never forget to trust your own parenting instincts. They are there for a reason.
As a single mom, I’m juggling a lot and working long hours. Yes, it costs them a little, but what my children get in return is a mother who is energized and content. – Edie Falco
As parents, we have the responsibility and privilege of setting the tone in our homes. It doesn’t matter what is happening outside those four walls, we have the ability to create a refuge, a place of love, a home for our children.
As your parent, I cant promise to fix all your problems, but I can promise you wont have to face them alone.
Ask your child what he wants for dinner only if he’s buying. – Fran Lebowitz
At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents. – Jane D. Hull
Bad moments don’t make bad parents.
Balance is what it’s all about no matter what your job is. Being a mom, working, and dividing your time. It’s what we all have to do as mothers. – Carrie Underwood
Be a full person. Motherhood is a glorious gift, but do not define yourself solely by motherhood. Be a full person. Your child will benefit from that. – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Be curious, not judgmental. – Walt Whitman
Be the parent today that you want your kids to remember tomorrow.
Be the parent you needed when you were young.
Be who you needed when you were young. – Unknown
Becoming a mom to me means that you have accepted that for the next 16 years of your life, you will have a sticky purse. – Nia Vardalos
Becoming a parent is the moment when all of life’s battles suddenly seem worth fighting for.
Before I got married I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories. – John Wilmot
Behind every young child who believes in himself is a parent who believed first. – Matthew Jacobsen
Behind every young child who believes in themselves is a parent who believed first.
Being a parent has made me so tired. And so happy.
Being a parent is amazing. And then it is really hard. And then it is incredible. And then it is everything in between. So, hold onto the good, breathe through the bad, and welcome the wildest and most beautiful ride of your life.
Being a parent is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had and dealing with dears you never knew existed.
Being a parent is the best reason you’ll ever have to take care of yourself.
Being a parent is tough, but always remember in the eyes of your child, no one does it better than you.
Being a parent isn’t easy, but it is definitely the best job anyone could ever have.
Being a parent makes you feel like a blanket that’s always too small. No matter how hard you try to cover everyone, there’s always someone who’s freezing. – Fredrik Backman
Being a parent means finding strength for your child, even when your soul is tired.
Being a parent to your child is not a job, it is a privilege and something to be cherished.
Being a working parent sometimes is unbelievably heartbreaking and hard but thank god for FaceTime (even if it’s blurry). – Busy Philipps
Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother. – Oprah Winfrey
By loving them for more than their abilities we show our children they are much more than the sum of their accomplishments. – Eileen Kennedy-Moore
Children are apt to live up to what you believe of them. – Lady Bird Johnson
Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk. – Carl Jung
Children are great imitators, and our role as parents it gives them something great to imitate.
Children are just different from one another, especially in temperament. Some are shy, others bold; some active, some quiet; some confident, others less so. Respect for individual differences is in my view the cornerstone of good parent-child relationships. – Sandra Scarr
Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work. – C.S. Lewis
Children do learn what they live. Then they grow up to live what they’ve learned. – Dorothy Nolte
Children have more need of models than of critics. – Carolyn Coats
Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them. – James Baldwin
Children learn more from what you are than what you teach them. – WEB DuBois
Children learn to smile from their parents. – Shinichi Suzuki
Children must never work for our love, they must rest in it. – Gordon Neufeld
Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it. – Harold Hubert
Children should not be burdened with making us happy, nor blamed for making us sad or angry. Children are not responsible for how we feel. We are. – Larissa Dann
Children will become what they are told they are. – Dorothy Delay
Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing up is like shoveling the sidewalk before it stops snowing. – Phyllis Diller
Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer from having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution. – L R Knost
Don’t judge other parents, you don’t know what cards parenting has dealt them.
Don’t let yourself become so concerned with raising a good kid that you forget you already have one. – Glennon Melton
Don’t raise your kids to have more than you had. Raise them to be more than you were. – Unknown
Don’t try to make children grow up to be like you, or they may do it. – Russell Baker
Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you. – Robert Fulghum
Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children. – Charles R. Swindoll
Even though your kids will consistently do the exact opposite of what you’re telling them to do, you have to keep loving them just as much. – Bill Cosby
Every child needs at least one adult who is irrationally crazy about him or her. – Uri Bronfenbrenner
Every day, in a hundred small ways our children ask, “Do you hear me? Do you see me? Do I matter” Their behavior often reflects our response. – L.R. Knost
Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. – Virginia Satir
Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them. – P. J. O’Rourke
First your parents, they give you your life, but then they try to give you their life. – Chuck Palahniuk
For me, being a mother made me a better professional, because coming home every night to my girls reminded me what I was working for. And being a professional made me a better mother, because by pursuing my dreams, I was modeling for my girls how to pursue their dreams. – Michelle Obama
Free the child’s potential and you will transform him into the world. – Maria Montessori
From what I can gather, motherhood is just repeatedly getting up after having just sat down two seconds ago. – Lauren Mullen
Gentle parenting doesn’t involve instantaneous results, but naturally achieved, life-long, lasting results. – Kirsty Lee
Gentle Parenting Images | “Speak with your children as if are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful humans on earth, for what they believe is what they will become. – Brooke Hampton
Girls are the future mothers of our society, and it is important that we focus on their well-being. – Miriam Makeba
Great parenting happens when you start controlling yourself and stop controlling your child.
Great parenting is being a worthy example for your children.
Having a baby dragged me, kicking and screaming, from the world of self-absorption. – Paul Reiser
Having a bond with your child is something money cant buy.
Having a child is like getting a tattoo … on your face. You better be committed. – Elizabeth Gilbert
Having a parent who listens creates a child who believes he or she has a voice that matters in this world. – Rachel Macy Stafford
Having children is like living in a frat house- nobody sleeps, everything’s broken, and there’s a lot of throwing up. – Ray Romano
Having one child makes you a parent; having two makes you a referee.
He that spareth his rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. – The Bible
Hearing your child say, I love you makes your whole parenting journey worth it.
I came to parenting the way most of us do – knowing nothing and trying to learn everything. – Mayim Bialik
I choose gentleness. If I raise my voice, may it be only in praise. If I clench my fists, may it be only in prayer. – Max Lucado
I didn’t think I’d have a child before I got married, but hey, it turned out that way and I wouldn’t change a thing. I didn’t think I’d have dessert before breakfast this morning, but hey, it turned out that way and I wouldn’t change thing. – Mindy Kaling
I don’t know what’s more exhausting about parenting: the getting up early, or acting like you know what you’re doing. – Jim Gaffigan
I don’t think it matters how many parents you’ve got, as long as those who are around make their presence a good one. – Elizabeth Wurtzel
I feel like I was never this patient, but it’s made me a nicer person, and I apply it to all aspects of my life. – Hilary Duff
I feel very blessed to have two wonderful, healthy children who keep me completely grounded, sane and throw up on my shoes just before I go to an awards show just so I know to keep it real. – Reese Witherspoon
I got a lot of support from my parents. That’s the one thing I always appreciated. They didn’t tell me I was being stupid; they told me I was being funny. – Jim Carrey
I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children and no theories.
I have yet to meet a parent who hasn’t failed yet, but the great parents are the ones who learned from their mistakes. – Kara Carrero
I hope my children always know that they were wished for, prayed for, and that they are forever loved.
I love when my kids tell me they’re bored. As if the lady standing in front of a full sink of dirty dishes is where you go to get ideas about how to have a good time.
I think the best part of being a parent is when your little one looks up at you and just smiles and stares because they know you are their person. Like nobody else is as important as you. They know that you have them like nobody else ever will. The connection is indescribable.
I thought I’d never be the annoying person, but as soon as Winnie was born, I was showing iPhone snaps to a cab driver. – Jimmy Fallon
I want them to see a mother who loves them dearly, who invests in them, but who also invests in herself. It’s just as much about letting them know as young women that it is okay to put yourself a little higher on your priority list. – Michelle Obama
If evolution works, how come mother’s only have two hands? – David Frost
If the day ever came when we were able to accept ourselves and our children exactly as we and they are, then, I believe, we would have come very close to an ultimate understanding of what ‘good’ parenting means. – Fred Rogers
If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do matters very much. – Jackie Kennedy
If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent. – Bette Davis
If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent, and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings. – Brian Tracy
If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others. – Haim Ginott
If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money. – Abigail Van Buren
If you’re worried about being a good parent, it means you already are one.
If your children fear you, they cannot trust you. If they don’t trust you, they cannot learn from you. – Lori Petro
If your kids are giving you a headache, follow the directions on the aspirin bottle, especially the part that says keep away from children. – Susan Savannah
In raising my children, I have lost my mind but found my soul. – Unknown
In the happiest of our childhood memories, our parents were happy, too. – Robert Brault
Insanity is hereditary. You can get it from your children. – Sam Levenson
Instant availability without continuous presence is probably the best role a mother can play. – Lotte Bailyn
It is better to bind your children to you by a feeling of respect and by gentleness than by fear. – Terence
It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings. – Ann Landers
It is one thing to show your child the way, and a harder thing to stay out of it. – Robert Brault
It is the nature of the child to be dependent, and it is the nature of the dependence to be outgrown. Begrudging dependency because it is not independence is like begrudging winter because it is not yet spring. Dependency blossoms into independence in its own time. – Peggy O’Mara
It is time for parents to teach young people that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength. – Maya Angelou
It just occurred to me that the majority of my diet is made up of the foods that my kid didn’t finish. – Carrie Underwood
It would be easy to be a parent if you said ‘yes’ all the time and gave them what they wanted, but you just can’t do that. There are certain things, of course, where you’re going to say ‘no’ and be tougher on. – Chrissy Teigen
Its not our job to toughen our children to face a cruel and heartless world. Its our job to raise children whole will make the world a little less cruel and heartless. – L.R.Knost
Its ok to have strengths and weaknesses as a parent. Some parents play games, others listen well, some cook with love, and others are great encouragers. We don’t have to be everything, every day to our kids. We just need to show up and love them hard.
It’s a funny thing about mothers and fathers. Even when their own child is the most disgusting little blister you could ever imagine, they still think that he or she is wonderful. – Roald Dahl
It’s not difficult to take care of a child; it’s difficult to do anything else while taking care of a child. – Julianne Moore
It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless. – L R Knost
I’m not a parenting expert. In fact, I’m not sure that I even believe in the idea of ‘parenting experts.’ I’m an engaged, imperfect parent and a passionate researcher. I’m an experienced mapmaker and a stumbling traveler. Like many of you, parenting is by far my boldest and most daring adventure. – Brene Brown
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. – Maya Angelou
Just because you’re a parent doesn’t mean your needs aren’t important. – Hilary Duff
Kids don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. – Riney Jordan
Kids need to be in charge of their own lives, not boxed in by adult baggage. – Issa Waters
Let parents bequeath to their children not riches, but the spirit of reverence. – Plato
Let’s be honest, kids take the number one position and it’s haaaaard to make the time for yourself. – Kate Hudson
Let’s raise children who won’t have to recover from their childhood. – Pam Leo
Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation. – C Everett Koop
Life is better with my kids.
Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you. No matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big because to them all of it has always been big stuff. – Catherine M. Wallace
Love as powerful as your mother’s for you, leaves its own mark to have been loved so deeply .. will give us some protection forever. – J.K. Rowling
Love is giving your kids your undivided attention and time. – Kevin Heath
Love is the chain whereby to bind a child to its parents. – Abraham Lincoln
Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. – Elizabeth Stone
Most American children suffer too much mother and too little father. – Gloria Steinem
Most things are good, and they are the strongest things; but there are evil things too, and you are not doing a child a favor by trying to shield him from reality. The important thing is to teach a child that good can always triumph over evil. – Walt Disney
Motherhood has completely changed me. It’s just about like the most completely humbling experience that I’ve ever had. I think that it puts you in your place because it really forces you to address the issues that you claim to believe in and if you can’t stand up to those principles when you’re raising a child, forget it. – Diane Keaton
Motherhood [and Fatherhood] has taught me the meaning of living in the moment and being at peace. Children don’t think about yesterday, and they don’t think about tomorrow. They just exist in the moment. – Jessalyn Gilsig
Mother’s love is peace. It need not be acquired; it need not be deserved. – Erich Fromm
My advice for new moms is this: You’ve have never been a mom before, and your baby is new to this world. So be kind to yourself, and be patient. It takes time, but you’ll get the hang of it! – Hillary Clinton
My biggest parenting conundrum: why is it so hard to put someone who is already sleepy to sleep. – Chrissy Teigen
My kid is turning out just like me. Well played, karma. Well played.
My kids will walk right past their father sitting on the couch and come bang on the shower door for me to open a fruit snack. – The Funny Beaver
Never doubt, you were made to be their parent.
Never fear spoiling children by making them too happy. Happiness is the atmosphere in which all good affections grow. – Thomas Bray
Never lend your car to anyone to whom you have given birth. – Erma Bombeck
No matter how far we come, our parents are always in us. – Brad Meltzer
No matter how many books you read or advice I get, y’all never be ready for mommy mode. – Cardi B
No matter the problem, kindness is always the right response. – L R Knost
No matter what happens, I hope my children will be able to look back and say, my parents loved me through it.
No one is ever quite ready; everyone is always caught off guard. Parenthood chooses you. And you open your eyes, look at what you’ve got, say “Oh, my gosh,” and recognize that of all the balls there ever were, this is the one you should not drop. It’s not a question of choice. – Marisa de los Santos
No one knows his true character until he has run out of gas, purchased something on the installment plan and raised an adolescent. – Marcelene Cox
No parent is always conscious, gentle, positive, peaceful, and authentic. We have to choose to be and practice moment by moment, day after day. The more we practice, the stronger we grow. – Lelia Schott
Nobody is hungrier than the kid who has been told it’s time for bed.
Nobody on earth can ever love you more than your parents.
Not all who wander are lost. Some are just moms in target, hiding from their kids.
Nurturing never happens in a rush. – Emma Scheib
Ok, kids, listen carefully because I’m only going to say this 175,276 more times. – @mommyowl
On our 6 a.m. walk, my daughter asked where the moon goes each morning. I let her know it’s in heaven, visiting Daddy’s freedom. – Ryan Reynolds
One generation of deeply loving parents would change the brain of the next generation, and with that, the world. – Charles Raison
One hundred years from now it won’t matter what your bank account was, the sort of house you lived in, or the kind of car you drove, but the world may be different because you were important in the life of a child. – Forest E. Witcraft
One of the greatest titles in the world is a parent, and one of the biggest blessings in the world is to have parents to call mom and dad. – Jim DeMint
One reason we have children I think is to learn that parts of ourselves we had given up for dead are merely dormant and that the old joys can re emerge fresh and new and in a completely different form. – Anne Fadiman
One thing I had learned from watching chimpanzees with their infants is that having a child should be fun. – Jane Goodall
One way of communicating Love with a child is through Eye Contact. – Jen Harrison
Our parent’s prayer is the most beautiful poetry and expectations. – Aditia Rinaldi
Out of all the parents in the world, you were picked to be theirs.
Parental love is the only love that is truly selfless, unconditional and forgiving. – Dr. TP Chia
Parenthood…it’s about guiding the next generation and forgiving the last. – Peter Krause
Parents are teachers, guides, leaders, protectors, and providers for their children. – Iyala Vanzant
Parents are the greatest gifts for children to help them find their talents.
Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, every movement, and action affects. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than a parent. – Bob Keeshan
Parents aren’t the people you come from. They’re the people you want to be when you grow up. – Jodie Picoult
Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands. – Anne Frank
Parents had some kind of sin radar. They always called when you were in the middle of something you just knew they’d consider wrong. Or at least risky. – Rachel Caine
Parents hold their children’s hands for just a little while, but their hearts forever.
Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry. – Alvin Price
Parents speak life into your children. Tell them all the incredible things they are and can do. So, when the time comes, they will have what it takes to follow their own path.
Parents were the only ones obligated to love you; from the rest of the world you had to earn it. – Ann Brashares
Parents who feel guilty about not doing enough are usually the ones doing everything possible.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. – Jean-Jacques Rousseau
People who say they sleep like babies usually don’t have them.
Perhaps it takes courage to raise children. – John Steinbeck
Praise your children openly, reprehend them secretly. – W Cecil
Pregnancy and motherhood are the most beautiful and significantly life-altering events that I have ever experienced. – Elisabeth Hasselbeck
Pushing children into something when they’re not ready, only pushes them away. Let them know that waiting and observing is an option. Doing something when they are comfortable and ready, is perfectly acceptable. It develops self-awareness and self-respect. – Kristy Lee
Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder. – Rumi
Raising a child might mean that my hands are full, but so is my heart.
Release your attachments to how things ‘ought ‘ to be and instead surrender to how they actually are. – Dr. Shefali Tsabary
Remember you are not managing an inconvenience. You are raising a human being. – Kittie Franz
Remember, you don’t have to explain your family’s parenting choices to anyone.
Romance fails us, and so do friendships, but the relationship of a parent and child, less noisy than all the others, remains indelible and indestructible, the strongest relationship on earth. – Theodor Reik
Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle age. – William Feather
Simply put, we, the parents, set the precedent for how human relationships are for our children. – Rebecca Eanes
So much is asked of parents, and so little is given. – Virginia Satir
So often, children are punished for being human. They are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes. Yet, we adults have them all the time. None of us are perfect. We must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves. – Rebecca Eanes
Sometimes it takes a little hand reaching out for yours to remind you that these are, without a doubt the best years of your life.
Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws. – Barbara Kingsolver
Speak with your children as if are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful humans on earth, for what they believe is what they will become. – Brooke Hampton
Speak with your children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful humans on earth, for what they believe is what they will become. – Brooke Hampton
Stop trying to perfect your child, but keep trying to perfect your relationship with him. – Dr. Henker
Take the time to listen to children. Believe what they tell you about themselves. – Issa Waters
Tantrums are not bad behavior. Tantrums are an expression of emotion that became too much for the child to bear. No punishment is required. What your child needs is compassion and safe, loving arms to unload in. – Rebecca Eanes
That’s what children are for—that their parents may not be bored. – Ivan Turgenev
The beauty of motherhood is not in the freshly pressed shirts and smiling photos we show the world. The beauty of motherhood is in the folds and creases of our lives, the grimaces and tantrums, the moments when we have to grit our teeth to get through, when we pound on windows and yell and scream and demand better of each other and ourselves. – Robyn Passante
The best kind of parent you can be is to lead by example. – Drew Barrymore
The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other. – Janet Blaustone
The best way to advise your children is to find out what they want and then advice them to do it. – Harry S. Truman
The best way to keep children at home is to make the home atmosphere pleasant, and let the air out of the tires. – Dorothy Parker
The best way to make children good is to make them happy. – Oscar Wilde
The children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they possess inside. – Whitney Houston
The danger of motherhood. you relive your early self, through the eyes of your mother. – Joyce Carol Oates
The depth of the love of parents for their children cannot be measured. It is like no other relationship. It exceeds concern for life itself. The love of a parent for a child is continuous and transcends heartbreak and disappointment. – James E. Faust
The easiest way to shop with kids is not to.
The example we set for our kids – how to act when things don’t go our way- is much, much more important than the rules we set for them. – Leo Babauta
The funny thing about parenting is, we try our best to teach our children all about life, but really they are the ones teaching us what life is all about.
The hardest parenting challenges are the most important ones.
The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. – Honore de Balzac
The interesting thing about being a mother is that everyone wants pets, but no one but me cleans the kitty litter. – Meryl Streep
The kids who need the most love will ask for it in the most unloving ways. – Unknown
The miracle of children is that we just don’t know how they will change or who they will become. – Eileen Kennedy-Moore
The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all. – Benjamin Spock
The most beautiful thing in the world is to see your children smiling and knowing that you’re the reason behind their smile.
The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother, and the most important thing a mother can do for her children is to love their father. – Anonymous
The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. – Theodore Hesburgh
The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them. – Frank A. Clark
The most powerful way to change the world is to live in front of our children the way we would like the world to be. – Graham R. White
The only things kids wear out faster than their shoes is their parents. – John J. Plomp
The parenting journey holds the potential to be a spiritually regenerative experience for both the parent and the child, where every moment is a meeting of spirits. And both parent and child appreciate that each dances on a spiritual path that’s unique, holding hands and yet alone . – Dr. Shefali Tsabary
The perfect time for kids to ask questions, need to go to the bathroom, request more food is bedtime.
The point of parenting is not to have all the answers before we start out but instead to figure it out on the go as our children grow. Because as they do, so will we. – Bridgett Miller
The quickest way for a parent to get a child’s attention is to sit down and look comfortable. – Lane Ollinghouse
The secret of dealing successfully with a child is not to be its parent. – Mell Lazarus
The sign of great parenting is not the child’s behavior. The sign of great parenting is the parents behavior. – Andy Smithson
The thing about parenting rules is there aren’t any. That’s what makes it so difficult. – Ewan McGregor
The trouble with being a parent is that by the time you are experienced, you are unemployed. – Author Unknown
The uncertainty of parenting can bring up feelings in us that range from frustration to terror. – Brene Brown
The way we talk to children becomes their inner voice. – Peggy O’Mara
The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. – Peggy OMara
The weird thing is that you’re just not a parent … and then you are. It takes your brain a couple hours to catch up to that. – Seth Meyers
The world has become too obsessed with finding ways to make babies entertained, settle themselves, sleep longer, and sleep alone. Nothing can truly replace the connection and affection of a human being. – Kristy Lee
The world is changed by examples, not by opinions. – Paulo Coelho
There are many things in life I have taken for granted, but the opportunity and ability to be a parent will never be one of them.
There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings. -Hodding Carter
There are so many quiet times you spend as a mother that aren’t glorified but are a foundation for your kids. No matter what, there was always a thick safety net under this trapeze. – Tina Fey
There are two gifts we should give our children. One is roots. The other is wings. – Unknown
There is no friendship, no love, like that of the parent for the child. – Henry Ward Beecher
There is no influence as great as that of a parent.
There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children. – Marianne Williamson
There is no such thing as a perfect parent. Just be a real one. – Sue Atkins
There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be the best one you can be.
There is no such thing as being the perfect parent. So just be a real one. – Sue Atkins
There is no way to be a perfect parent and a million ways to be a good one. – Jill Churchill
There is only one pretty child in the world, and every mother has it.
There really are places in the heart you don’t even know exist until you love a child. – Anne Lamott
There’s always the syndrome of the parent-child relationship: when someone has known you since you were very young, it doesn’t matter how much more independent, how much older or more mature you get – there is still that element, the dynamic of the relationship that is very hard to transform successfully. – Helene Grimaud
There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one. – Jill Churchill
There’s nothing called a perfect parent, so just be a real one. – Sue Atkins
Things may seem really crazy and hard with your kids right now, but someday you’re going to miss this! – Amy Stasney
To be a good father and mother requires that the parents defer many of their own needs and desires in favor of the needs of their children. As a consequence of this sacrifice, conscientious parents develop a nobility of character and learn to put into practice the selfless truths taught by the Savior Himself. – James E. Faust
To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today. – Barbara Johnson
To me luxury is to be at home with my daughter, and the occasional massage doesn’t hurt. – Olivia Newton-John
To raise a child who is comfortable enough to leave you means you’ve done your job. They are not ours to keep but to teach how to soar on their own. – Unknown
Toddlers should come with their own clean-up crew.
Too much love never spoils children. Children become spoiled when we substitute presents for presence. – Anthony Withman
Too much love won’t spoil. Kindness doesn’t provoke poor behavior. Respect doesn’t invite disrespect. This backward thinking has caused us to feel trapped into being too harsh for too long. Generations of children are still searching and longing for unconditional love. – Rebecca Eanes
Trust Children. Nothing could be more simple, or more difficult. Difficult because to trust children we must learn to trust ourselves, and most of us were taught as children that we could not be trusted. – John Holt
We are all imperfect parents and tha’s perfectly okay. Tiny humans need connection not perfection. – L.R. Knost
We liberate children not by making them work for our love, but by letting them rest in it. – Dr. Godron Neufeld
We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future. – Franklin D. Roosevelt
We must remember that one day our children are going to follow our example instead of our advice. – Carolina King
We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves. – Henry Ward Beecher
We spend the first 12 months of our children’s lives teaching them to walk and talk and the next 12 months teaching them to sit down and shut up. – Phyllis Diller
Well loved children become good hearted adults.
We’re doing the best we can, so it would be really nice if moms supported each other instead of pointing out the flaws. We’re all trying to do the best we can. – Jana Kramer
We’ve had bad luck with our kids – they’ve all grown up. – Christopher Morley
What an honor parenting is. To get to be a little someones everything. To love them and guide them. And treasure them for the rest of your life.
What it’s like to be a parent: It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do but in exchange it teaches you the meaning of unconditional love. – Nicholas Sparks
What’s done to children, they will do to society. – Karl Menninger
When a child can’t calm down they need connection and comfort, not criticism and control. – Jane Evans
When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos. – L R Knost
When you hold your baby in your arms the first time, and you think of all the things you can say and do to influence him, it’s a tremendous responsibility. What you do with him can influence not only him, but everyone he meets and not for a day or a month or a year but for time and eternity. – Rose Kennedy
When you look at your life, the greatest happiness is family happiness. – Joyce Brothers
When you look into your mother’s eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth. – Mitch Albom
When your children are teenagers, it’s important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you. – Nora Ephron
Whenever I held my newborn baby in my arms, I used to think that what I said and did to him could have an influence not only on him but on all whom he met, not only for a day or a month or a year, but for all eternity – a very challenging and exciting thought for a mother. – Rose Kennedy
You can be a mess and still be a good parent. We are allowed to be both.
You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance. – Franklin P. Adams
You can’t teach children to behave better by making them feel worse. When children feel better they behave better. – Pam Lee
You go through big chunks of time where you’re just thinking, ‘This is impossible – oh, this is impossible.’ And then you just keep going and keep going, and you sort of do the impossible. – Tina Fey
You have a lifetime to work, but children are only young once. – Polish Proverb
You have to love your children unselfishly. That is hard. But it is the only way. – Barbara Bush
You know you’ve grown a lot as a parent when you watch your kid lick something in public and think, “Eh. He’s licked worse.” – @PerfectPending
You learn so much about yourself from being a parent and you care more about the world you are raising your kids in. – Kim Kardashian
You must first teach a child he is loved. Only then is he ready to learn everything else. – Amanda Morgan
You see much more of your children once they leave home. – Lucille Ball
You start to focus less on what’s wrong for you and more on what’s wrong for the next generation. It mobilizes you. Some moms channel that into the PTA, and other moms channel it into marching for women’s rights, so moms need to be more rebellious than ever. – Pink
You will never look back on life and think, “I spent too much time with my kids.” – Unknown
you’re the only one who gets to choose the kind of parent your kids have. Choose wisely.
Your children need your presence more than your presents. – Jesse Jackson
Your children vividly remember every unkind thing you ever did to them, plus a few you really didn’t. – Mignon McLaughlin
Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them. – Bill Ayers
Your words as a parent have great power. Use them wisely and make sure they come from the heart. – Carolina King
Quotes From Wikiquote
- What … should be the effort on the part of parents and educators?…
- 1. An atmosphere of love, wherein fear is cast out and the child realises he has no cause for timidity, shyness or caution, and one in which he receives courteous treatment at the hands of others, and is expected also to render equally courteous treatment in return…
- 2. An atmosphere of patience, wherein the child can become, normally and naturally, a seeker after the light of knowledge; wherein he is sure of always meeting with a quick response to inquiry, and a careful reply to all questions, and wherein there is never the sense of speed or hurry… Impatience on the part of those upon whom they are so pathetically dependent, sows in them the seeds of irritation, and more lives are ruined by irritation than can be counted.
- 3. An atmosphere of ordered activity, wherein the child can learn the first rudiments of responsibility… the shouldering of small duties and the sharing of responsibilities is a potent factor in determining a child’s character and future vocation.
- 4. An atmosphere of understanding, wherein a child is always sure that the reasons and motives for his actions will be recognized, and that those who are his older associates will always comprehend the nature of his motivating impulses, even though they may not always approve of what he has done, or of his activities.
- Alice Bailey Education in the New Age (1954)
- It is the older generation who foster in a child an early and most unnecessary sense of guilt, of sinfulness and of wrongdoing. So much emphasis is laid upon petty little things that are not really wrong, but are annoying to the parent or teacher, that a true sense of wrong (which is the recognition of failure to preserve right relations with the group) gets overlaid and is not recognized for what it is. The many small and petty sins, imposed upon the children by the constant reiteration of “No”, by the use of the word “naughty”, and based largely on parental failure to understand and occupy the child, are of no real moment. If these aspects of the child’s life are rightly handled, then the truly wrong things, the infringements upon the rights of others, . . . the hurting or damaging of others in order to achieve personal gain, will emerge in right perspective and at the right time.
- Alice Bailey Education in the New Age (1954)
- Mrs. Darling first heard of Peter when she was tidying up her children’s minds. It is the nightly custom of every good mother after her children are asleep to rummage through their minds and put things straight for next morning, repacking into their proper places the many articles that have wandered during the day. If you could keep awake (but of course you can’t) you would see your own mother doing this, and you would find it very interesting to watch her. It is quite like tidying up drawers. You would see her on her knees, I expect, lingering humorously over some of your contents, wondering where on earth you had picked this thing up, making discoveries sweet and not so sweet, pressing this to her cheek as if it were a kitten, and hurriedly stowing that out of sight. When you wake up in the morning, the naughtiness and evil passions with which you went to bed have been folded up small and placed at the bottom of your mind; and on the top, beautifully aired, are spread out your prettier thoughts, ready for you to put on.
- J. M. Barrie, Peter Pan (1904).
- I am now the father of four. In the tradition of my mother, my wife and I read individually to them every night. As a result, they love books too. There is no greater tool for bonding with children than books. There is no greater instrument for teaching lessons for life. Now my children reach for books before they reach for the remote control.
- Jeff Benedict in Roxanne J. Coady and Joy Johannessen (eds.) The Book That Changed My Life (2006), ISBN 1-592-40210-0, p. 21
- Let France have good mothers, and she will have good sons.
- Napoleon Bonaparte, reported in Josiah Hotchkiss Gilbert, Dictionary of Burning Words of Brilliant Writers (1895), p. 441.
- The greatest gift you can bestow upon your children is your time and undivided attention.
- Jim Brozina, in Alice Ozma, The Reading Promise ISBN 978-0-441-01179-7 (2011), Foreward, p. xiv
- Parents have the first responsibility for the education of their children. They bear witness to this responsibility first by creating a home where tenderness, forgiveness, respect, fidelity, and disinterested service are the rule. The home is well suited for education in the virtues. This requires an apprenticeship in self-denial, sound judgment, and self-mastery — the preconditions of all true freedom. Parents should teach their children to subordinate the “material and instinctual dimensions to interior and spiritual ones.” Parents have a grave responsibility to give good example to their children. By knowing how to acknowledge their own failings to their children, parents will be better able to guide and correct them.
- Catechism of the Catholic Church (1992), § 2223
- Parents should teach children to avoid the compromising and degrading influences which threaten human societies.
- Catechism of the Catholic Church (1992), § 2224
- I learned the right way to live from my parents. I never heard any hate in my house. I never heard my father say a mean word to my mother, or my mother to my father, either. During the war, when food was hard to get, my parents fed their children first and they ate what was left. They always thought of us.
- Roberto Clemente, as quoted in “Clemente, 32, Pays Tribute to Parents” by Les Biederman, in The Sporting News (September 3, 1966), p. 12
- “There’s a moment of disrecognition that I think occurs for all new parents. One minute you’re looking at your child lovingly, marveling how lucky you are; the very next instant you’re wondering, ‘Who let this loathsome reptilian thing into my life? Whose good idea was this?’ Eventually the perception shifts again, this time stabilizing into a more natural and permanent state. This isn’t a loathsome reptilian thing after all; it’s just a short person with some serious opinions of its own. And it expects to be listened to. Parenting is the acceptance of that other person’s existence as a person, not a thing.”
- David Gerrold, Introduction to The Martian Child, in Pamela Sargent (ed.) Nebula Awards 30, p. 151 (originally published in The Magazine of Fantasy & Science Fiction, September 1994)
- “What’s the matter?”
“What if I’m really not good enough?” I said. “That’s what I’m worried about—I can’t shake that feeling.”
“Oh, that—” she said, lightly. “That’s normal. That’s the proof that you’re going to do okay. It’s only those parents who don’t worry who need to.”
- David Gerrold, The Martian Child, in Pamela Sargent (ed.) Nebula Awards 30, p. 159 (originally published in The Magazine of Fantasy & Science Fiction, September 1994)
- One of the things I tell new parents is something that was told to me when my daughter still had that new-baby smell: “Prepare for long days but short years.” No statement more succinctly captures the exhaustion, excitement, and melancholy nostalgia that come with parenthood. I have no doubt whole books have not covered it more eloquently.
- Jonah Goldberg, “What’s So Great about Western Civilization” (19 April 2019), National Review
- The commonest fallacy among women is that simply having children makes one a mother, which is as absurd as believing that having a piano makes one a musician.
- Sidney J. Harris, as reported in The Westminster Collection of Christian Quotations (Westminster John Knox Press: 2001), p. 253
- When we talk of parental influence we do not think of terror in connection with it—that is not the primary idea—it is not terror and coercion, but kindness and affection, which may bias the child’s mind, and induce the child to do that which may be highly imprudent, and which, if the child were properly protected, he would never do.
- William Wood, 1st Baron Hatherley, L.C., Turner v. Collins (1871), L. R. 7 Ch. Ap. Ca. 340; reported in James William Norton-Kyshe, Dictionary of Legal Quotations (1904), p. 188.
- When parents know how to assign the task with authority, when the coachman knows from seasoned experience how to assign the task, it is indescribably helpful. So it is also for the adult when the task is firmly set with the authority of eternity, which is indescribably helpful in carrying out the task. If a child is so unfortunate as to have a father who does not know how to command, or the horses a second-rate driver, it seems as if the child and the horses would not have half of the powers they actually do have. Alas, and when the adult who is the sufferer surrenders his soul to the power of vacillation, he is actually weaker than a child. But then it is indeed also a joy that hardship is the road, because then the task is immediately at hand and stands unshakably fixed and firm. Hardship is the road-and this is the joy: that it is not a quality of the road that it is hard, but it is a quality of the hardship that it is the road; therefore the hardship must lead to something; it must be passable and practicable, not suprahuman.
- Søren Kierkegaard Upbuilding Discourses in Various Spirits, Hong p. 299-300 (1847)
- I suppose that every parent loves his child; but I know, without any supposing, that in a large number of homes the love is hidden behind authority, or its expression is crowded out by daily duties and cares.
- Abbott Eliot Kittredge, reported in Josiah Hotchkiss Gilbert, Dictionary of Burning Words of Brilliant Writers (1895), p. 442.
- Long before a thermonuclear war can come about, we have had to lay waste our own sanity. We begin with the children. It is imperative to catch them in time. Without the most thorough and rapid brainwashing their dirty minds would see through our dirty tricks. Children are not yet fools, but we shall turn them into imbeciles like ourselves, with high I.Q.s if possible.
- From the moment of birth, when the Stone Age baby confronts the twentieth-century mother, the baby is subjected to these forces of violence, called love, as its mother and father, and their parents and their parents before them, have been. These forces are mainly concerned with destroying most of its potentialities, and on the whole this enterprise is successful.
- R. D. Laing, The Politics of Experience (1967), p. 58
- They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
- But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.
- Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.
- Philip Larkin, “This Be The Verse,” High Windows (1974)
- A father would do well, as his son grows up, and is capable of it, to talk familiarly with him; nay, ask his advice, and consult with him about those things wherein he has any knowledge or understanding. By this, the father will gain two things, both of great moment. The sooner you treat him as a man, the sooner he will begin to be one; and if you admit him into serious discourses sometimes with you, you will insensibly raise his mind above the usual amusements of youth, and those trifling occupations which it is commonly wasted in. For it is easy to observe, that many young men continue longer in thought and conversation of school-boys than otherwise they would, because their parents keep them at that distance, and in that low rank, by all their carriage to them.
- John Locke, Some Thoughts Concerning Education (1693), § 95
- Parental feeling, as I have experienced it, is very complex. There is, first and foremost, sheer animal affection, and delight in watching what is charming in the ways of the young. Next, there is the sense of inescapable responsibility, providing a purpose for daily activities which skepticism does not easily question. Then there is an egoistic element, which is very dangerous: the hope that one’s children may succeed where one has failed, that they may carry on one’s work when death or senility puts an end to one’s own efforts, and, in any case, that they will supply a biological escape from death, making one’s own life part of the whole stream, and not a mere stagnant puddle without any overflow into the future. All this I experienced, and for some years it filled my life with happiness and peace.
- Bertrand Russell, in Autobiography (1967-1969), Ch. 11: Second Marriage.
- Kids are a great analogy. You want your kids to grow up and you don’t want your kids to grow up. And you can’t have it both ways. You want your kids to become independent of you, but it’s also in a way a parent’s worst nightmare: for them to not need you. So, how do you reconcile those two very strong emotions? You don’t. You live with that problem. It’s the real tragedy of parenting. And maybe there’s some sense in which in art you can have it both ways whereas in life you can’t.
- Jonathan Safran Foer, in “Those Things Tumbling Around Inside” (2013)
- Walter Slezak says he’s tired of arguing with his kids about borrowing the car. “The next time I want it,” he says, “I’m just going to take it.”
- Walter Slezak, as paraphrased and quoted in “Gag Bag” by Larry Wolters, in The Chicago Tribune (September 1, 1963), Sec. 6, pg. 9
- Cherish the children your love gave life.
- Siduri to Gilgamesh, in the Epic of Gilgamesh, Sippar tablet (Old Babylonian)
- Parenting is the science of art of upbringing children.
- Simon Soloveychik in Parenting for Everyone, (1996).
- Have children to your heart’s content.
- Sumerian proverb, Collection I at The Electronic Text Corpus of Sumerian Literature, 3rd millennium BCE.
- [H]e who does not support a child, has no cause for celebration.
- Sumerian proverb, Collection I at The Electronic Text Corpus of Sumerian Literature, 3rd millennium BCE.
- Marrying is human. Having children is divine.
- Many children harbor hidden anger and resentment toward their parents and often the cause is inauthenticity in the relationship. The child has a deep longing for the parent to be there as a human being, not as a role, no matter how conscientiously that role is being played. you may be doing all the right things and the best you can for your child, but even doing the best you can is not enough.
- Eckhart Tolle, in A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (2005)
- Children in particular find strong negative emotions too overwhelming to cope with and tend to try not to feel them. In the absence of a fully conscious adult who guides them with love and compassionate understanding into facing the emotion directly, choosing not to feel it is indeed the only option for the child at that time. Unfortunately, that early defense mechanism usually remains in place when the child becomes an adult.
- Eckhart Tolle, in A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (2005)
- Children’s painbodies sometimes manifest as moodiness or withdrawal. The child becomes sullen, refuses to interact, and may sit in a corner, hugging a doll or sucking a thumb. They can also manifest as weeping fits or temper tantrums. The child screams, may throw him or herself on the floor, or become destructive. Thwarted wanting can easily trigger the painbody, and in a developing ego, the force of wanting can be intense. Parents may watch helplessly in incomprehension and disbelief as their little angel becomes transformed within a few seconds into a little monster.
- Eckhart Tolle, in A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (2005)
- Highly sensitive children are particularly affected by their parents’ painbodies. Having to witness their parents’ insane drama causes almost unbearable emotional pain, and so it is often these sensitive children who grow into adults with heavy painbodies. Children are not fooled by parents who try to hide their painbody from them, who say to each other, “We mustn’t fight in front of the children.” This usually means while the parents make polite conversation, the home is pervaded with negative energy.
- Eckhart Tolle, in A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (2005)
- While the child is having a painbody attack, there isn’t much you can do except to stay present so that you are not drawn into an emotional reaction. The child’s painbody would only feed on it. Painbodies can be extremely dramatic. Don’t buy into the drama. Don’t take it too seriously. If the painbody was triggered by thwarted wanting, don’t give in now to its demands. Otherwise, the child will learn: “The more unhappy I become, the more likely I am to get what I want.” This is a recipe for dysfunction in later life. The painbody will be frustrated by your nonreaction and may briefly act up even more before it subsides. Fortunately, painbody episodes in children are usually more shortlived than in adults.
- Eckhart Tolle, in A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose (2005)
- You that are parents, discharge your duty; though you cannot impart grace to your children, yet you may impart knowledge. Let your children know the commandments of God. “Ye shall teach them your children.” You are careful to leave your children a portion; leave the oracles of heaven with them; instruct them in the law of God. If God spake all these words, you may well speak them over again to your children.
- Thomas Watson, reported in Josiah Hotchkiss Gilbert, Dictionary of Burning Words of Brilliant Writers (1895), p. 441.
- The more boring a child is, the more the parents, when showing off the child, receive adulation for being good parents– because they have a tame child-creature in their house.
- Frank Zappa in Mojo Magazine (1993).
- Your Lord has ordained that you must not worship anything other than Him and that you must be kind to your parents. If either or both of your parents should become advanced in age, do not express to them words which show your slightest disappointment. Never yell at them but always speak to them with kindness.
Be humble and merciful towards them and say, “Lord, have mercy upon them as they cherished me in my childhood.”
- Quran, 17:23-24
- Every young adult has the potential power to help the entire world. He just needs the right guidance and support. A garden with different flowers becomes beautiful when it blossoms. Similarly, if parents learn how to be a ‘gardener’ and are able to recognize their child’s personality and nourish it, then their ‘garden’ will become fragrant! This is what positive parenting is all about!
- Dada Bhagwan in  PARENT – CHILD INTERACTION IN THE DEVELOPMENT OF A JUVENILE’S PERSONALITY (2019), p. 100.