A Husband’s Prayer
Help me to be the kind of husband you want me to be.
Help me not to take my role as husband lightly or take my wife’s love for granted.
Help me to be a good listener, giving my wife my full attention so that I will be well aware of her concerns, aspirations, and needs.
Help me to pay attention to the advice my wife gives me when she brings things to my attention that I may be doing wrong or that I could be doing better.
Help me to be more anxious to please my wife than to have my own way.
Help me to be aware of the things that I do that upset my dear wife – and enable me not to keep doing them – so that I will not be causing unnecessary problems in our relationship.
Help me to remember that I am commanded to love my wife as Christ loved the Church and gave His life for it and please help me to better understand what that means to me as a husband.
Help me to treat my wife better than when we were first met and remind me of the importance of spending quality time alone with her and of doing things to remind her of how special she is to me.
Help me not to jump to conclusions about my wife’s motives and enable me to think the best of her at all times.
Help me to apologize and set things straight when I complain, falsely accuse, act selfishly, or say unkind or provoking words.
Help me to go out of my way to complement her and to encourage her.
Help me to be a proper example of what a loving, considerate, caring, and self-sacrificing husband should be.
Help me to realize that it is my job to be an example of maturity and not an example of a disrespectful wisecracking school boy.
Help me to be joyful in spite of my circumstances and help me to avoid whining and complaining when things do not go my way.
Help me to admit my faults, to apologize when I am wrong, and to be anxious to heal wounds that I may have caused in my relationship to my wife.
Help me to realize that is far better to get my wife to do things I want her to do because she loves me and not because I threaten her or yell at her.
Help me to never forget that You gave me my wife to be a helpmate and best friend and may I never think of her as an adversary or a hindrance.
Help me to show my children how much I respect and love their mother by my actions and by the words out of my mouth.
Help me not to be afraid to be affectionate and loving towards my wife in front of my children so that they will know how to be good spouses when they grow up.
Help me to properly discipline my children so they are not a burden or a grief to my wife.
Help me to show my children that my wife is truly my very best friend and a highly trusted partner in the ministry of our family.
“To my darling wife ……………………….”
Lord, may there be no moment in her life
When she regrets that she became my wife;
To my defects, and to my failings kind.
Help me do the utmost that I can
To prove myself her measure of a man;
But, if I often fail as mortals may,
So, loving all our children, she will see,
Sometimes, a remnant of the child in me.
Since yours must bring to all their load of care,
Let us together every burden bear;
And when Death beckons one, it’s path along,
May not the two of us be parted long.
“Sweetheart, I Love You!” John
A Husband’s Daily Prayer
As a husband, I beseech you my God, make me unselfish, cheerful, trustful, thrifty and denoted companion. If I am blessed with fatherhood, I ask the additional grace of helpfulness and good example. May our family be modeled upon the Holy Family. Amen.
Protect Her Joy
Thank you, Father, for the gift of my wife. You are the giver of all good and perfect blessings, and I’m amazed how You show Your love through her. Please help me to cherish such an amazing gift (James 1:17).
Each day, circumstances and frustrations can easily steal the joy from ________. Please keep her from letting these challenges turn her focus from You, the author of her faith. Give her the joy that Jesus had as He accomplished the Father’s will on earth. May she consider each struggle as a reason to find hope in You (>Hebrews 12:2–3; >James 1:2–3).
When she feels tired, Lord, renew her strength. Surround her with friends who love You and will bear her burdens. Give her reason to feel refreshed by their encouragement (Isaiah 40:31; Galatians 6:2; Philemon 1:7).
May she know that the joy of the Lord is the source of her strength. Protect her from growing tired of doing what You’ve called her to do each day (Nehemiah 8:10; Galatians 6:9).
Give Her a Growing Need for You
Father, You supply all our needs according to Your riches in Christ. I’m amazed that you care about us enough to meet our daily concerns and to notice every detail of our lives. Even the hairs of our heads are numbered because You take care of Your children (Philippians 4:19; Matthew 7:11, 10:30).
I confess that I sometimes think of myself as being the one who takes care of _______. Forgive me for taking to myself what truly belongs to you. Her help comes from You. If she depends on me, I know I’ll disappoint her. But You never fail, and You make her like a garden that always has enough water. You’re always faithful, always enough. Help her to know that You are all she needs (Psalm 121:2; Lamentations 3:22; Isaiah 58:11; >John 14:8–9).
If she is tempted to look for comfort in anything else, may she instead realize how the power of Your Holy Spirit allows her to overflow with hope and peace. Nothing on this earth compares to the greatness of knowing You (Romans 15:13; Philippians 3:8).
Shield Her from Spiritual Attack
You, God, are a shield around us. You protect us from the enemy who seeks to destroy, and you will not let us be put to shame. Your arm is mighty, and Your Word is powerful (Psalm 3:3, 12:7, 25:20; Exodus 15:9; Luke 1:51; Hebrews 1:3).
When the enemy attacks her, let her faith in You protect her so that she may stand her ground. Bring your Word to her mind so that she may turn aside his assaults and fight the good fight. Help her to remember that You give us the victory through Christ (>Ephesians 6:10–18; 1 Timothy 6:12; 1 Corinthians 15:57).
You have conquered and disarmed the spiritual powers, and everything is in complete submission to You. Because of the cross, ______ is a new creation, and nothing can separate her from Your amazing, unfailing love (Colossians 2:15; 1 Peter 3:22; 2 Corinthians 5:17; >Romans 8:38–39).
The enemy is defeated. You have crushed his head (Genesis 3:15).
Build Her Love
Father, You loved us first—so much so that You sent Your Son to take our place. How incredible it is to think that while we were sinners, Christ died for us. Nothing we do could ever compare to the riches of Your grace (1 John 4:19; John 3:16; Romans 5:8; Ephesians 2:7).
Help ________ to grow first in her love for You. May she be increasingly in awe of Your power, beauty, and grace. May she know more each day about the depth and width of Your love and respond with increasing love of her own (Psalm 27:4; Ephesians 3:18).
Help her to love me through all my failures while I learn to love her as Christ loves the church. May we see each other as You see us, and may we enjoy fulfilling each other’s desires in our marriage (Ephesians 5:25; >1 Corinthians 7:2–4).
Please give her a growing love for others in all that she does. Show her how to be Christ’s ambassador in the world and to be a woman defined by love so that others may glorify You. Because of that love, may she share the gospel with everyone (2 Corinthians 5:20; Matthew 5:16; 1 Thessalonians 2:8).